Algiz reversed, Eihwaz, Dagaz
Partially due to the social structure of the holiday season- it’s going to be hard to find to the time and space to center oneself in ones’ own thoughts without setting up clear boundaries. This is a time to learn to say no to others with compassion and determination. Take a look at what bonds you to another person: are they in your life because of a sense of duty, or because you “should” include them, does anyone in your life hold you emotionally hostage? Do you feel like you owe them something because of ‘all that you have gone through’? Time alone does not make a relationship better or prove that it is worth keeping. It comes down to this; does being with this person bring you happiness, do you like you are in their presence, do they help you see a new side of yourself? Say yes to those that increase your energy and joy and release the ones that drain your energy.
A note on those that do drain us- also look at if you have people in you life just to be an obstacle to overcome. Do you work better when someone tells you that you can’t do it? What are you learning from the people that annoy you?
This month is going to present a variety of new obstacles. But these are not signs that you should stop all together – just that it is time to redirect your energy. Like a stream- just flow around the rocks. When encountering your problematic relationships, try also to go in without preemptively being on the defensive, give them a chance to show if they have changed. (this is for the annoying people, not the toxic ones that you are letting go of)
This can be an amazing month is if you are thinking outside the box and trying new approaches! Set firm boundaries and keep your eyes on your goals and work daily towards them. There is a lot of great potential, a lot of opportunity to change things for the better, but it will take some hard work and determination.