Algiz reversed, Eihwaz, Dagaz
Partially due to the social structure of the holiday season- it’s going to be hard to find to the time and space to center oneself in ones’ own thoughts without setting up clear boundaries. This is a time to learn to say no to others with compassion and determination. Take a look at what bonds you to another person: are they in your life because of a sense of duty, or because you “should” include them, does anyone in your life hold you emotionally hostage? Do you feel like you owe them something because of ‘all that you have gone through’? Time alone does not make a relationship better or prove that it is worth keeping. It comes down to this; does being with this person bring you happiness, do you like you are in their presence, do they help you see a new side of yourself? Say yes to those that increase your energy and joy and release the ones that drain your energy.
A note on those that do drain us- also look at if you have people in you life just to be an obstacle to overcome. Do you work better when someone tells you that you can’t do it? What are you learning from the people that annoy you?
This month is going to present a variety of new obstacles. But these are not signs that you should stop all together – just that it is time to redirect your energy. Like a stream- just flow around the rocks. When encountering your problematic relationships, try also to go in without preemptively being on the defensive, give them a chance to show if they have changed. (this is for the annoying people, not the toxic ones that you are letting go of)
This can be an amazing month is if you are thinking outside the box and trying new approaches! Set firm boundaries and keep your eyes on your goals and work daily towards them. There is a lot of great potential, a lot of opportunity to change things for the better, but it will take some hard work and determination.
Algiz reversed, Mannaz, Fehu reversed
It is spring cleaning time again. Since Sunday most of us have been naturally dropping things that no longer work, but it is time to amplify the energy by physically moving objects out of your space. Physical objects hold a lot of energy and if it reminds you of a time when you were not at your best, it should be sent on its way. Every thing you look at in your home should serve a purpose. Either as just its function or to inspire, challenge, or remind you of joy.
Also be honest with yourself about the company you keep. They say that if you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room. How many of your friends and close associates are people you aspire to be like? Are there any people that you feel you need to apologize for? The signals right now around these issues are ringing louder than they have before. Interactions that are natural and energizing are moving you in the right direction, spend more time with those people. If you are feeling weighed down or are struggling to be understood when you interact with someone, they may no longer be at the same vibration as you. It is time to walk away and reset your boundaries. There is nothing preventing open communication right now outside of who you are being and who the other person is being. If you are both being true to your higher selves, there is no need to repeat, rephrase, and try to force the conversation. If you are taking care of your needs for yourself, your relationships with be based on what you want in life.
Wunjo, Algiz reversed, Uruz reversed
Take advantage of today. There is joy to be had if you seize the moment and remain open to adventures. Just be aware of people who may take advantage of you, because with this influx of energy, you are wide open. Recheck your boundaries to make sure they are in place and being enforced, and maintain an attitude of gratitude for all the amazing things that are coming your way.
Algiz reversed, Wunjo reversed, Dagaz
Serenity is rather elusive when you feel no one is respecting your space. Your boundaries are important and yours are being sorely tested, but truly this is a test for you. It is time to flex your power and firmly set the lined where you begin and others’ energy ends. It may feel as though you are cutting people off energetically at first, but once you become used to your energy becoming your own you will realize how much of yourself you have been missing. The hope lies with you, that you see your own greatness and start to respect your own space, once you do that others will follow.
Teiwaz, Isa, Algiz
It takes a lot of courage to heal, to take a hard look at yourself and be honest about the things that you believe about yourself and to recognize the role you have played in creating your own present. You got to where you are now because of the things you believed about yourself and by your reactions to the challenges that you have manifested in your life. Just acknowledging that you are the creator or your life and that you are not a puppet takes courage. Congratulations for getting this far! Accepting this truth may freeze some of you in your tracts. It can easily lead to a pattern of fear based decisions. But know that fears are self-fulfilling, and that fear tries to hurry things along. Patience and good boundaries are needed when fear rears its head. The great thing about boundaries is that they give you the freedom to move within an area unchecked. When you give your fear a time and a place, and give your other emotions times to come out and play, one will not rule over the others. It is not a matter of shutting down fear, just a matter of not living in it. It will take as much space as you give it. Say to yourself “Okay, I am afraid that this thing won’t work out the way I intended”. Say it just once and then let it go. Acknowledging and then releasing emotions lets them have their say in their place. But don’t cling to them or get stuck in a cycle of obsessing about why you feel a certain emotion, this will only lead to layers of more doubt, fear, and anger. Acknowledging and releasing lets all of your natural doubt and worries and slight funks express what they need to say, without trapping you.
Boundaries can be a great thing when they are set properly. They give you freedom with the knowledge that you are also protected. Children love to test boundaries as they grow. Every see a young kid do something that they know they are not supposed to do and then look up to see what happens? They are simply finding the boundaries, testing the waters to see if that line still holds today the way it did yesterday. Then when you say “no, you know you aren’t supposed to do that”, they go back to playing happier than before because all is right with the world. Do you know where your boundaries are? Once you find them you too can play with abandon. Knowing your own also helps you respect other peoples’ boundaries and they can play freely as well.
One way to protect yourself is to build imaginary boundaries. Walls that keep the pain and joy of an intimate relationship for away. Yes, there are people in your life, but how often to they get to see the real you? It is time to redraw the boundaries around you to include those you care about. It may be something as easy as not wearing make up or high heels for a day. Or sharing something that you feel could open you up to criticism. It is time to be brave and know that you can do no wrong as long as you are being true to yourself.